I attended a webinar today called “Grief: What Helps When It Hurts” by the Hospice Foundation of America. I was interested in this presentation because I work with many employees who have lost family members and struggle when they return to work. The focus of the presentation was on grieving the death of a loved […]
Having turned fifty-seven this week; Hope of retirement in eight years seems bleak. Thinking of losing my income somehow; Is much too scary to think of just now. To think of not having two jobs but just one Is a dream a long time in my future to come. For if I step down from
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Being a caregiver is difficult. It’s a lot of hard work; it’s emotionally trying; it’s downright exhausting…but also very rewarding. I try each day to come up with at least one thing that I have done, used, seen, or thought about that I am thankful for, and I highlight that on my Facebook timeline. I
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For the past year, I have excitedly looked forward to this year’s beach vacation. I have dreamed about how awesome it would be, talked about it with anyone who would listen, and looked forward to it like a child looking forward to a Christmas Eve visit from Santa. I was so excited because I thought
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Before I start this blog, I want to write a disclaimer: I’m very tired and having difficulty this week, so if you are a caregiver, read on—you probably have felt the same way. If you are someone with MS, maybe you better skip this one. It’s not meant to cause you guilt or pain, but
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We had a great fortune this year to rent a beach house for our summer vacation that included a handicap-accessible pool. The pool was large enough for our entire family to be in it (seven of us) but small enough that by afternoon the water temperature was around the bath-water range. While some people might
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Of all the caregiving responsibilities I do daily, the one I think is most important is inspecting and caring for Lynn’s skin. For most people, getting a cut, scratch, or other skin irritation is no big deal. They get a little Neosporin ointment, slap a Band-Aid, and go about their usual routine. For someone who
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Always be Prepared. That was the Scout motto when I was a kid, and I’ve taken it to heart for survival purposes now that I’m a caregiver. The need to always have a “plan B” keeps me on my toes and planning ahead for the “just in case” life I now live. Today is Saturday.
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With much excitement but a little trepidation, Lynn and I returned to church last Sunday. We had not been able to attend there since he started requiring the use of a wheelchair to get around. When he first came home from the hospital in 2010, he was too weak for almost a year; then as
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Occasionally, I get an email from someone who is a new caregiver asking for advice on how to adjust to this new role they have acquired. Here are some of the life lessons I’ve learned from caregiving. I can’t be perfect. Not that I ever was, but I’ve always had the personal philosophy that if
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People have different ways of relieving stress and frustration, and as Lynn’s condition progressed from independence to total dependency, I think we have used them all. Most provide some relief, but some work better than others. For us, the method that works the best is laughter. Now, when I was a kid, I was told
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I recently published a blog (June 26, 2014) entitled “A Short Trip Back Home.” In that blog, I discussed the fact that going away for a weekend required just about the same amount of preparation and packing of equipment as going away for a week. Now, I want to discuss the “lessons learned” from that
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